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Pet Emotions

Understanding Human vs. Pet Emotions

Emotions are a fundamental part of life, shaping our experiences and interactions with the world around us. While we often anthropomorphize our pets, attributing human-like emotions to them, it’s essential to recognize both the similarities and differences between human and pet emotions. This understanding can deepen our bond with our furry friends and enhance our ability to care for them.

The Nature of Emotions

Human Emotions

Humans experience a wide range of complex emotions influenced by cognitive processes, social interactions, and personal experiences. Our emotions are deeply tied to our consciousness, self-awareness, and ability to reflect on the past and future. Emotions like guilt, shame, pride, and empathy are part of what makes human emotional life rich and multifaceted.

Pet Emotions

Pets, particularly dogs and cats, also experience emotions, but their emotional range and complexity differ from ours. Pets primarily live in the moment and respond to immediate stimuli. Their emotions are more straightforward and are closely tied to their survival instincts and social bonds. Common pet emotions include joy, fear, anger, and affection.

Common Emotions in Pets and Humans

Joy

Humans: We feel joy from various sources, such as achievements, relationships, and personal growth.

Pets: Pets express joy through tail wagging, play, social interactions, and enjoying their favorite activities.

Humans: Fear in humans can stem from real or imagined threats, and it often involves a complex interplay of thoughts and anticipations.

Pets: Pets experience fear in response to direct threats, loud noises, unfamiliar environments, or negative past or present experiences.

Affection

Humans: Human affection is multifaceted, involving deep emotional connections, empathy, and mutual understanding.

Pets: Pets show affection through physical closeness, grooming behaviors, and seeking attention, like a cat rubbing against your leg or a dog leaning into you.

Grief

Humans: Human grief is profound and can involve mourning the loss of loved ones, broken relationships, or significant life changes.

Pets: Pets can also experience grief, particularly over the loss of a companion or a significant change in their environment. They may exhibit behaviors like withdrawal, changes in eating habits, or increased vocalization.

Differences in Emotional Expression

Humans have complex ways of expressing emotions, including verbal communication, facial expressions, body language, and art. We can articulate our feelings and seek support through conversations, which helps us process emotions.

Pets rely on non-verbal cues to express their emotions. Understanding these cues requires attentiveness to their body language, vocalizations, and behavior patterns. For example, a dog’s wagging tail can indicate happiness, while a cat’s flattened ears may signal fear or aggression. You can also better understand these expressions by hiring an animal communicator

Enhancing the Human-Pet Bond

Recognizing and respecting the emotional lives of our pets is crucial for fostering a strong bond. Here are some tips to enhance this bond:

  1. Observe and Learn: Spend time observing your pet’s behavior and body language. This helps you understand their emotional states and respond appropriately.
  2. Provide a Safe Environment: Ensure your pet feels safe and secure. A stable, loving environment helps them feel confident and reduces stress.
  3. Engage in Play and Interaction: Regular play and positive interactions strengthen your bond and provide emotional enrichment for your pet.
  4. Offer Comfort: During stressful times, comfort and reassure your pet with physical touch, soothing words, or providing a quiet space.
  5. Respect Their Space: Just like humans, pets sometimes need their space. Respect their boundaries and allow them to retreat when they need a break.
  6. Hire an Animal Communicator: By hiring an animal communicator, you can learn things like what your pet likes to do and eat, whether it likes its environment, how it’s physically feeling, and so much more!

While human and pet emotions are different in complexity and expression, they share the core experience of feeling and responding to the world around them. By understanding these similarities and differences, we can better meet our pets’ emotional needs and build a deeper, more fulfilling relationship with our furry companions. Embrace the unique ways your pet shows their emotions and cherish the bond you share.

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Pet Loss

Finding Healing from Pet Loss Through Connection: Part 2

As I mentioned in Part 1, Marjorie’s animal communication helped me with Buddy’s anxiety and other things. I was really happy that I had her as another tool I could use to give Buddy the best life.  

About a year later, I was in my newish apartment, and Buddy started acting oddly. He wouldn’t use his hind legs and was really lethargic. This episode went on for about 10 minutes or so, and I called my veterinarian to get some help. I was living in DC at the time, about 1 hour and 20 minutes from my vet, so I was sending videos and pictures as I described what was happening, and he told me to go to an emergency vet and suggested one in DC. I let Marjorie know, and once again, she came to the rescue! As I sat in the waiting room, never having been in this situation before, Marjorie offered a great deal of comfort. She gave me some suggestions on what to ask them to ensure that everything was being considered and that we got the best care possible. She suggested asking for certain blood tests to ensure the proper follow-up. I felt like I had someone on my side who was not only consoling me but was helping me keep a level head. Marjorie also checked up on me after our visit and kept checking on Buddy. Everything ended up being okay, and the emergency vet chalked it up to him getting into something he shouldn’t have. That wasn’t the Buddy I knew, so I knew something else was going on.

Buddy’s Health Started to Decline

In September of 2023, Buddy had his one-year check-up. We went to see Dr. Ahalt, and after a quick exam, he said, “Casey, I think his heart is getting worse, and I think he has some fluid on it. We’re going to do some blood tests and exams to see what exactly is happening.” My eyes started to tear up as they took my sweet Buddy back for testing. They brought him back in not too long after, and I anxiously waited for the results. His heart was, in fact, getting worse. It was enlarged, and he had fluid in his lungs and around his heart. He also had some other things going on with his kidneys. Long story short, he had to go on 7 medications to help his heart beat better and to reduce the fluid. My heart was broken. I wondered, “How did things start declining so quickly?” We were advised to come back in 30 days to see how he was doing.

Buddy Had Another Episode

One day, Buddy and I were in the car, and he was in the back seat. Before, he would stay in the back seat but in recent months, he became more anxious and just wanted to be on my lap. So I attached his leash to the headrest so that he couldn’t get up front. We were driving along, and I looked back to notice that he wasn’t moving. I immediately pulled over, and he was having another lethargic episode where his body was pretty limp. I held him and reassured him he was going to be okay. I gave him some water and got him comfortable on my lap for the rest of the ride home. I called the vet and took him in. He ended up going on another medication to help with his blood pressure. So now, he was on 8 medications a day, and I was told that there was not much else we could do. He was on all the medications he could be on with the highest dosages for his size. 

It Was Time for More Animal Communication

Given Buddy’s recent medical exam, I connected with Marjorie again, and we chatted about Buddy’s new state. I really wanted to get some reassurance that he wasn’t suffering because his symptoms were getting worse. He was gagging a lot more when he drank water and just didn’t seem very comfortable. Marjorie reassured me that she didn’t sense that he was feeling any pressure or discomfort. This was a relief. The last thing I wanted was to be selfish and keep him here for my own benefit when it was his time to pass on.

Preparing For The Loss of Buddy

With the changes in Buddy’s health, I had to come to terms with the fact that his time was limited. His symptoms were much worse starting in February of 2024. It was almost like he was trying to cough the fluid out, but it wasn’t coming out. Seeing this on a regular basis broke my heart even more. It felt like there was really nothing more I could do. I did little things like give him his favorite treat, buy more of his favorite “Gumby” toys, and even let him sleep in the bed if he wanted to. This was my way of making sure he was most comfortable and enjoyed his last days. Thankfully, I work from home, so I was able to spend the majority of our waking hours together. Well, my waking hours because Buddy slept a lot! 

Despite giving him his best days in preparation for the day when he would pass, I never would have imagined that those days were so numbered. Like Marjorie said in her Pet Loss and Animal Communication: Part 2 blog, death does not read the calendar, and boy, was she right! One day, I scooped Buddy up and put him in the car, and we went on a ride. He wasn’t anxious; he just sat in the back seat and stared…until he didn’t. I was talking to him, telling him we were about to stop and usually I could hear his name tag jingling when I would talk to him. I heard nothing, so I looked back and he was gone. He had laid on the seat and passed. I couldn’t believe it. I needed more time. More time with him and more time to prepare. 

Marjorie brought up so many great points in her blog. She mentioned doing some inner reflection to determine how you’ll bring this chapter to a close in a way you can live with, knowing how you would handle the remains, and so on. I didn’t do any of this. It came way too fast. 

My Suggestion for Your Healing

While I was able to figure things out, I struggled with guilt for quite some time. I did until I had another consultation with Marjorie, during which we talked with Buddy after his passing. As I wasn’t ready, I learned that Buddy wasn’t ready either. His heart stopping caught him by surprise as well, and his spirit was still hanging out in my apartment, making sure that I was okay. My call with Marjorie gave me the closure I needed with him. She comforted me by reassuring me that he was where he wanted to be when he passed, and that was with me. He wasn’t in chronic pain, and I didn’t have to make the decision to put him down. This really was the best case scenario for me and for Buddy. So, my suggestion is to take the time to think through what will happen when your beloved pet passes and be sure to utilize Marjorie before, during, and after the process. You will not regret it!